Consent, Authentic Connection, and Caring Relationships
Title IX. Adjudication. Due Process. Survivor. Perpetrator. As different college campuses wrestle with the issue of sexual assault, it is more important than ever that young people learn about and embrace opportunities to understand consent.
To stay grounded amidst the confusion and inconsistency that can be real at our nation’s universities, teenagers need information and support on how to navigate the sexual landscape of hookup culture, the elements of legal, pleasurable and consensual sexual activity, as well as how to establish meaningful and joyful relationships.
Teaching students to educate others on how to treat them and listen for how others want to be treated is the foundation of this work. To understand the value of authentic connection through empathy, mutual respect, effective communication, self-awareness, values and healthy, age appropriate, medically accurate sex information is essential.
And what about pleasure? Students need to understand how caring and communicative relationships can enrich their lives and lead to greater success and happiness. Each young person has a sense of individual readiness when it comes to intimacy and developmentally appropriate sexual exploration. It is important for teens and young adults to connect with this internal compass and listen to how it may guide them towards legal, consensual and pleasurable sex, as well as authentic connection, and caring and loving relationships.
Shafia has received national attention for her consent curricula in publications such as The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, and The Washington Post. Most recently, she was the keynote speaker on consent education in K-12 schools for the NAIS Annual Conference, Schools and Sexuality Symposium.
From educational professional development conferences and workshops, to the guest teaching of consent related sex education, Shafia presents in various capacities on the topic to a range of audiences.